to fly you need only one lift, your weight. Lift excess is useless and an aircraft with lots of lift without weight to keep would be unflyable like a bad shaped paper plane.
This is false, or at least gross oversimplification.
First, there is nothing forcing the lift produced by the wing to be equal to weight. The lift force can be smaller than the weight, it can be larger than the weight... it can even be negative.
The lift is equal to weight in a specific flight condition: Straight and level flight. For that, you do need an ability to balance lift with weight and this is done either by adjusting trim to make the aircraft fly level at a particular power setting, or by engaging autopilot with altitude hold mode.
In order to make the aircraft do anything else than fly straight and level, some adjustments of the lift
must be done simply to make the aircraft change its direction. This is basic kinematics; to make an object change its motion, there must be an external non-zero net force acting upon it.
Most often this is achieved by adjusting the angle of attack with elevator control surface, but lift is also varied by high-lift devices (flaps and slats) and airbrakes (spoilers). If the pilot wants the aircraft to start a climb (or turn, for that matter) the lift must be increased; if the pilot wants to start a descent, the lift must be decreased in order to get the aircraft moving into the desired direction.
To facilitate this, an aircraft's wing can vary its lift within a wide range, usually announced by the g-limits of the aircraft. For example a Cessna 152 Aerobat has a cited load capability of +6g to -3g. That means the aircraft's wing can produce up to six times the aircraft's weight upward (in a particular load configuration of course) and three times aircraft's weight downward. And, usually there's at least 1.5x engineering margin in the structural limits to avoid damage in normal operation.
Also, saying that "excess lift" is
useless simply boggles my mind. How can it possibly be useless when it is the cornerstone of any maneuvering capability? Why do you think wing loading is such an important factor for determining the maneuverability of an aircraft? The more "excess lift" an aircraft has in reserves, the more drastic maneuvers it is capable of doing; this is generally why low wing loading aircraft like the A6M Zero or early Spitfires generally turn better than aircraft with high wing loading - like a P-51 Mustang or Fw 190, for example.
High wing loading has other benefits that become evident at high speeds, but that does not in any way invalidate the benefits of having lots of "excess lift".
Il-2 flaps behaves wrong since they makes you CLIMB, assuming the more lift "the more you fly" as any amateur could guess without knowing the real thing.
According to my tests, this is incorrect. Deploying flaps in IL-2 without any other pilot input makes the aircraft climb a little, after which it turns to descend due to the increased drag.
Have you actually tested this?
Flaps makes you need less AoA so your nose goes DOWN, Il-2 behaves wrong on its entirety since behaves the opposite for every aircraft and that's unfixable since it's core engine who's wrong, I explained once, that's all.
"Need" implies controlled action to
prevent the aircraft from climbing. If you enable the level stabilizer* or maintain level flight manually, indeed you shall find that deploying flaps requires the aircraft's nose to be pushed down, quite substantially in fact, in order to avoid a climb.
Without such control, there is nothing preventing the aircraft from climbing when its high airspeed combined with deployed flaps produces higher lift than aircraft's weight. The aircraft starts a slight climb, loses airspeed, and turns to a descent.
Again, have you actually tested this in IL-2 1946?
*The level stabilizer in some planes
is actually broken and doesn't properly work in all circumstances.