My thoughts are with you Karla, I can't wait to see this one coming out.
I used to practice carrier landings a lot with most jets. All in cockpit view. No external lol.
The F-4 is indeed quite hard to land, I suggest you use the airbrakes and put between 90-100% trust. Try to fly at the speed of 300km/h when you're about to toutch the deck.
If you try to land jets in cockpit view I also suggest you use the "sight view for dogfights" (Shift+F1 as default). This will help you to see the deck when you're nose is up. The F-4 has a crowded cockpit, can't see anything most of the time.
Regarding the Skyhawk, this one I can't ever land. I've tried all my best, but I think the plane is just too light. When I hook, the plane flies up in the air, tips over, or gets pulled backward by the wire.
The easiest carrier jet to land in my opinion is the FJ-M Fury.
Anyway, I hope this helps a bit.
Keep up the good work Karla!
Clint